Neil Dudley: Here we go, Straight From the Horse’s Mouth, folks. You need to be totally comfortable with being a fan girl or fan guy. I’m telling you, what could possibly be wrong with that? Don’t have any hesitation with regards to being excited, doing what it takes to be at the front of the line, to be a fan of somebody that you know can help you or that you’re interested in that you so much want to learn from. And it was just never more apparent to me then when I was in the episode with Tyson Durfey, talking to him about what he did so he could facilitate an opportunity to get to talk to Tony Robbins. And it just hit me like a ton of bricks. Do I act that way? Am I scared to be a fan guy running to the front of an auditorium to find a seat so I could have an opportunity to talk to somebody? Yeah, I might be. So, I want to try to eliminate that in my life, like that- Whatever it is, that little piece of your personality or our humanity that wants us not to have somebody else look at us and think some thought that we perceive as negative. The truth is, who cares? People are going to think negative thoughts about you. People are going to think positive thoughts about you. A lot of times, I believe this to be true, a lot of times, you think somebody might be thinking a negative thought about you, the truth is they’re sitting there probably saying to themselves like, wow, I wish I had the guts to be like that. And that’s just how we perceive things, how we don’t seem to always really know what the core of somebody’s thought processes are. Anyways, Tyson, thank you so much for sharing that reality with us about how you just don’t care what people think. You don’t mind running like a fan girl to the front of the auditorium so you can be on the corner of the row and have an opportunity like you got when you were talking to Tony Robbins. So, thank you so much for sharing that with my audience. Everybody out there listening, think about that. Are you doing it in business? Are you too cool to walk up to somebody you don’t know at a conference and say hi, I’m Neil, you probably don’t know me or care to, but I want to meet you because you’re valuable, I would like to know you because there could be a chance that we could do some mutually beneficial business. That’s tough. I’m telling you, in these big conferences, like sit at the table, engage in whatever conversation there that might be happening. And that’s at lunch, breakfast, whatever breakout sessions there may be. I think that is doing some of what I’m talking about. It’s just putting yourself out there, being willing for people to laugh at you. Look, in the early years at Pederson’s, Cody and I would go, and then Stacey and I would end up going when she came and started working with us too, and we would be in these conferences and sitting at these tables, and people are just talking about what they do and how they do it. We would kind of start talking about, well, we do all natural, no antibiotic ever, organic bacon, sausage, and ham. And I think it was just not popular enough at the time or a lot of- or maybe just by chance, we’re sitting at the table with people that didn’t have a mindset that was ready to embrace the idea that the consumer was looking for something different then maybe what they were doing. So, we got some kind of interesting looks. A lot of times it felt like we were kind of getting ignored or thought of as crazy. That could have just been my perception. But it was so valuable to sit there and go through that and still try. Because now, years later, some of those same people are some of my greatest mentors; they are some of the people that come to me, or I go to them. And there was no ill intention or ill will created or caused or meant by anything. It’s just being human. And we all have those tendencies to want to preserve ourselves and preserve any pain that might come from feeling like we’re not cool. Well look, nobody’s cool. We’re not cool. It’s all right. Do the things in life that make you happy, that take you to another level. That’s all I’m encouraging. So please just hear me. Yes, you probably are cool. I may be the only one that’s just not cool. But the truth is I just embrace it. Whatever, I’m not cool. I can’t dance. I can’t sing. I can’t do a lot of things. I can do a lot of other things. And I’m proud of those things that I can do. I try to get better at those things. I try to learn other ways of doing things. I want to help maybe give you a chance at some of those opportunities through this podcast. So go check out this clip I’m going to have Johnny put here so you can listen back and hear what Tyson had to say about what he did, and just think about that. Are you holding yourself back because you aren’t willing to run into an auditorium and get the seat that puts you in the best opportunity to learn something?
Think about this: Tyson is a successful person. He does well, he’s already built huge things, and he’s running to get on a corner in an auditorium so he might get to talk to Tony. That’s so humble. It’s so valuable. I don’t care if you’re Donald Trump, you have things- I don’t know why I picked Donald Trump. He’s just the one that came to mind. I guess because he represents like he knows everything. Like it seems to me that he acts like he knows everything. You don’t. I’m successful, but I need to talk to Tyson because he has perspectives that I can use. Tyson is successful but he needs to talk to Tony Robbins. That network, just be the kind of person that can allow that truth into your life. Like hey, I don’t know everything, and I’m going to run to the front row. I don’t care what anybody thinks.
Tyson Durfey: I don’t give a damn what anybody thinks. Like I don’t give- When I started wearing a pink shirt, you know how many people called me gay or worse?
Neil Dudley: I don’t know, but I could imagine.
Tyson Durfey: Like, you know, like off the bat. But really, to be honest with you, I just don’t give a damn what anybody thinks, says, or does. Because at the end of the day, it’s my bottom line. It’s not theirs, it’s my bottom line, and I just don’t care what they say, what they think, if they laugh at me behind my back, which happens all the time, if they don’t like me because I put myself out on social media, if I run like a fan girl through a massive auditorium that holds 10,000 people to be the first one to get that corner seat to maybe get a chance, like I don’t give a damn.
Neil Dudley: I loved how you thought it out too. People, you got to listen to what he said. He watched YouTube videos. He put work into getting this opportunity in his life. Just, it’s so awesome.
Tyson Durfey: Strategic.
Neil Dudley: Yeah, strategic thinking. This is how he does his things. I would love a chance to put my hand up and get to talk to this guy. How can I most optimize that?
Tyson Durfey: And here’s the thing, Tony is not just the mindset guy. He runs 52 businesses. They do billions of dollars a year in revenue. The guy is worth almost a billion dollars as an individual. So, for me, it’s like, okay, yeah, I love the motivation of him, but what kind of business knowledge can he give me? And what’s 20 minutes of this guy’s time worth? And oh, by the way, it was in front of seven or eight or ten thousand other people that they all got to learn from my experience.
Neil Dudley: Yeah.
Hey, everybody, as luck would have it, I just listened to an episode that I had to get in this Straight From the Horse’s Mouth content as well, because it ties so closely to what we’re talking about. Don’t be afraid to be a fan girl or a fan guy; let yourself totally release whatever ego you might have and just say, wow, I can learn something here, and I don’t care what the other people around me may be looking or thinking or saying. That is such a great thing I think we could all use. I need it. I have to think about that a lot because, I mean, I’m just like anybody else, I think. I care what other people think about me. I don’t want them to be laughing at me behind my back or saying things that would hurt my feelings. The truth is that would only hurt my feelings if I give it that power. If I don’t give it that power, it’s not going to hurt my feelings. Well anyways, I’m rambling a little bit, but I want to make sure you all hear a little clip from this episode of Dropping Bombs with Brad Lea where he is interviewing Jay Samit. Man, Jay, if there’s any wild chance that you listen to this, or Brad, either one, I loved that episode so much. I want to tell everybody to go listen to that whole episode, and I’m going to find a piece of it and put it in here so you can just hear how Brad is totally fan girling out over Jay. All right. I hope you all enjoy it. And seriously, don’t be afraid to look up and be willing and interested in getting to know those people that bring value to the things that you want in life.
I hope you guys found some value in this quick conversation. I’m going to be doing these Straight From the Horse’s Mouth, trying to nail down some specific things on topics for everyone so you get a little quicker listen. And if you want to get deeper, you can listen to these full episodes. Thanks everybody for listening.
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